Advice from a Matchmaker: Expecting “Happily Ever After” will Ruin your Relationship

Let’s get one thing straight: There is no Happily Ever After (HEA).
I know that’s what we all wish for and expect of ourselves when we walk down the aisle but let’s be honest…no one has experienced HEA.
There are going to be struggles. Maybe not on a daily basis or even weekly but it is a fantasy to think that you and your Significant Other (SO) can have a conflict-free life. This is a candyfloss dream that Disney sold to us as #RelationshipGoals but it’s got no foundation.
Here’s an idea: Let’s say HEA was possible. Would you really want a life without conflict? Would you like to spend the rest of your life metaphorically riding off into the sunset?
That sounds pretty fucking boring to me.
Conflict is where growth and wisdom come from. This is where you will learn the most about yourself and your SO, and it’s through conflict and its resolution that you build a stronger and healthier relationship.
Think about it this way: Without the downs how will you know when you’re up?
What do you think…Do you think HEA is possible? Would you like to have a conflict-free relationship?
xo MD

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