Advice from a Matchmaker: What it means to be a High-Value Woman and how to Communicate it

About two years ago I wrote a blog post about the commoditization of women in Hong Kong where I encouraged women to take more ownership of their love life.

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Being High Value
At that time I didn’t realize there was a term for what I wanted Hong Kong’s women to be – but I do now: It’s called high value (not to be confused with high-net worth although you can definitely be both).

The world’s most famous dating guru for women, Matthew Hussey has a great list of high-value traits, which I’m sharing (verbatim) below:

  • A strong sense of purpose and direction in life
  • Independence and interests/pursuits that give her fulfillment
  • A commitment to growth and ability to improve
  • Looking after her health and treating her body with respect
  • Strong standards for how she should be treated that she sticks to
  • A feeling of self-worth and internal validation
  • Sexual confidence and ability to be adventurous in bed
  • Ability to turn him on emotionally and sexually
  • Absence of neediness
  • Willingness to love him for who he is and encourage him
  • A lifestyle that she loves living and good relationships with people around her
  • Absence of drama

That’s a great list, right?!

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You can break down that list into two parts:

  1. Being high value
  2. Communicating you are high value.

I have no doubt that all of the women reading this check most ‘being’ boxes but I feel a lot of you don’t check many of the ‘communicating’ boxes (which I would say are even more important than the former).

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Communication High Value
You communicate your high value by:

It’s easy to forget how to communicate your high value if you find yourself crushing badly on someone but it’s imperative because if you don’t show him, how will he know?

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And if he knows but doesn’t care or tries to convince you he does (but his actions show otherwise), this guy isn’t worth your time or energy.

xo Ariadna

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